Lots of theological discussion about who is whole according to church doctrine. I will put in my two cents worth. A simple definition of wholeness is hard to come by. Life keeps happening to us, and how we meet those flinging events may help define us as whole or not.
What if, after you die, you put out your hand to shake hands with God, but you discover that God has no arms? Would God be less because he/she is different? So, this is a dumb question. God is a spirit and we are created in his image. Not a him or a her or armless. In a spiritual image. Whew! That lets me off the hook. I can’t walk or lift a full glass of water, but I can try to attain wholeness in God’s image.
It really doesn’t matter what anyone says. We can all strive to be whole in spiritual ways and have a fulfilling life any way we can.
Abraham Maslow wrote that to be whole you must certain needs met including food, clothing, shelter, safety ad security, love belonging, self esteem. but a few years later in his Theory of Hiarchy, and Pyramid of Self Actualization he gives a different idea of being whole: Knowing what ought to be known, and living accordingly makes one a whole person.
Everyone gets an even shot at what might be called wholeness, and while it is a label and I don’t like labels, using the word can make us think about our spiritual sides.