Once I became aware of microagressions and the effect they have on persons (they are those little unintentional slights that communicate a negative message), I asked myself if I was saying them to myself, not out loud but in my head). Not good for my self esteem. I spilled a bottle of liquid medicine, and said, “You crazy do-do bird.” Not exactly a positive message for my self esteem. Then I was surprised at some of my other self talk and self thought. Discovered I need to advocate for myself in the field of mental health.
You can read about microagressions on this site: https://www.naomimitchum.com/advocate-for-mental-illness/understand-pesky-slights/